Posted by: Greta Jaeger | December 11, 2009

Powerful you tube video, enjoy

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | December 11, 2009

What you are missing

My seminar is tomorrow I will be covering fifty minutes and Dr. Duckett will be handling the next two hours. We are going to teach some amazing new techniques and ideas. I am excited and ready to get started. For those not going we will miss you. Here is a small piece of what you will miss.

a. How to be a lifeaholic
b. How to handle your gremlin
c. How to stay heart centered

This is just a sample of what I am covering Dr. Duckett gave me a taste of his stuff a couple of days a go and it was mind blowing.

Have a great weekend. Here is a great video check it out a taste of the mental codes.

Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLC
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.YouCanHaveItAll.Wordpress.com

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | December 3, 2009

How to have more fun on the Holidays

The holidays are an interesting and funny period for many of us.  It’s a time that really reveals the ways different people react to it and share very different experiences.  Let me give you one example.  I have a friend who visualizes the perfect holiday with her family.  Then, when her desires don’t come true, she gets upset. The cookies must come out right and the turkey can’t be dry or my holiday is ruined. This is one way in which the use of visualization skills can be counter-productive. Visualizing can have great impact on how you experience your holiday because how we perceive the holiday is how we feel about the holiday.  Therefore, if we expect perfection and don’t get it then we perceive that our holiday is ruined.  Yuck!  What an awful way to celebrate.

Those who choose to look at events in their lives through a negative lens often wonder why they’re not happy.  We focus on negative points and questions, wondering why these terrible things keep happening to us, such as asking the universe why we’re the one who gets the cold or flu every year or why are we always feeling depressed or mentally worn out.  How you perceive events in your life and how you move in the world impacts your mental and physical health. Shocking, I know, but true.   Knowing this one bit of information can be quite useful, though.

Let me explain further.  It has been proven through many studies that when a person feels mentally under the weather, their immune system (the part of our body that fights illness) stops working as well.  When the immune system is functioning at this lower capacity, we’re much more likely to catch that nasty cold or flu bug that comes our way.  Now, doesn’t that sound like fun?  Not really, but again, it’s good to know that yes, your bad mood creates the possibility of bad physical health.

I am not suggesting that you’re going to make yourself sick.   I’m simply stating that you increase your chances of becoming physically ill when you are sad, depressed, angry, frustrated, or stressed for extend periods of times. I would also like to point out that stress is not something that we want to eliminate entirely.   The goal is to keep it at a manageable level where you don’t feel overwhelmed.  Learning to see the world in a more positive light will help reduce stress. Instead of visualizing the perfect holiday, practice visualizing a fun-filled, positive celebration.  Learn to let your holiday season flow.  Don’t expect things to go exactly as planned.  They rarely do.  Plans change.  People change.  Things always take longer than expected.  Allowing the possibility that your plans may not always turn out perfectly will give you the opportunity to let life flow and become more enjoyable.  When something does go wrong, learn to change your perception around the event.  Turn it into something more positive.  If the cookies end up tasting like hockey pucks, have a good laugh, throw them out, and say, “Well, that just leaves more room for pie!”

Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLC
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.YouCanHaveItAll.Wordpress.com

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | November 30, 2009

Something to Remember

Summary of Life

GREAT TRUTHS THAT LITTLE CHILDREN HAVE LEARNED:

1) No matter how hard you try, you can’t baptize cats..
2) When your Mum is mad at your Dad, don’t let her brush your hair.
3) If your sister hits you, don’t hit her back. They always catch the second person.
4) Never ask your 3-year old brother to hold a tomato.
5) You can’t trust dogs to watch your food.
6) Don’t sneeze when someone is cutting your hair.
7) Never hold a Dust-Buster and a cat at the same time.
8) You can’t hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.
9) Don’t wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.
10) The best place to be when you’re sad is Grandpa’s lap..

GREAT TRUTHS THAT ADULTS HAVE LEARNED:

1) Raising teenagers is like nailing jelly to a tree.
2) Wrinkles don’t hurt.
3) Families are like fudge…mostly sweet, with a few nuts
4) Today’s mighty oak is just yesterday’s nut that held its ground..
5) Laughing is good exercise. It’s like jogging on the inside.
6) Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fiber, not the toy.

GREAT TRUTHS ABOUT GROWING OLD

1) Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional..
2) Forget the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get.
3) When you fall down, you wonder what else you can do while you’re down there.
4) You’re getting old when you get the same sensation from a rocking chair that you once got from a roller coaster.
5) It’s frustrating when you know all the answers but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.
6) Time may be a great healer, but it’s a lousy beautician
7) Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone.

THE FOUR STAGES OF LIFE:

1) You believe in Santa Claus.
2) You don’t believe in Santa Claus.
3) You are Santa Claus.
4) You look like Santa Claus.

SUCCESS:

At age 4 success is . . . . not piddling in your pants.
At age 12 success is . . .. having friends.
At age 17 success is . . having a driver’s license.
At age 35 success is . . .. .having money.
At age 50 success is . . . having money.
At age 70 success is . … . having a drivers license.
At age 75 success is . . . having friends.
At age 80 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.

Pass this on to someone who could use a laugh.

Always remember to forget the troubles that pass your way;
BUT NEVER forget the blessings that come each day.

Have a wonderful day with many *smiles* !

Take the time to live!!!
Life is too short.
Dance naked. woo-hoo!

Anonymous

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | November 22, 2009

My friend Errin

I lost one of my best friends this week. She died in a car wreck. My friend Errin was a young woman with lots of goals many unrealized. Some of these goals we had in common i.e. to have retreats for people that were health focused and fun was one of them. I have had competing thoughts since I heard the news of her death; one she did not realize her full potential and the other she realized her full potential up to this point in her life. The later idea is winning out because Errin was a lifeaholic. Errin lived every moment of her life with passion and purpose. I am not sure we can ask for more than that. I am not saying she did not have more lessons to learn we all do until the day we die. I am saying that she continued to learn, grow and take risks until the moment she was gone. We may have lost an intelligent, compassionate, passionate, and beautiful person but we can learn from Errin to not miss out on a moment of our lives. She made many mistakes I know because we talked about them and she always learned from her mistakes and challenged her self to keep going, to improve.

At her funeral service it was more than evident that Errin had inspired hundreds of people and through them thousands will be inspired. What a life! Her father commented that Errin had lived as much in her short life as many ninety year olds. This is a good goal for all of us. Pursue your dreams even when you don’t know what they are yet. Question, probe and challenge yourself to become better, to become more of yourself, like Errin did. When you know what you want in life don’t stop, never stop until you have achieved your goal. There will be obstacles, road blocks and people blocks (i.e. your self). Get out of your own way, feel the fear and do it anyway.

Greta Jaeger is doing a seminar with Dr. Michael Duckett if you want more information about the Mental Codes Seminar please call (404) 259-1335. Tickets are selling fast so call now (404) 259-1335.

Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLC
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.YouCanHaveItAll.Wordpress.com

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | November 16, 2009

Want a happy life read this!

I know that is a bold statement and well it is true that I can’t say my blog will create happiness because it doesn’t and it won’t. So why make the statement you may ask, because I was inspired to. I was writing an entry about the importance of visualizing for creating what you want in life and it hit me. My whole journey in life so far has been about how to be happy. I know if you continue to work at your own personal growth you will learn how to be happy daily. You can not stop and never give up and you will learn what you need to know. This blog will teach you at least some of the techniques you need to overcome your blocks and confusion. My own personal growth continues to this day and will continue until I die.
Here is a little bit on how I came to my passion to help, I was a unhappy child and teenager. I had nothing to complain about, I was a top athlete in my home town, I made decent grades, and even if my parents did not get along I knew I was loved. You see I had it easy, I was unhappy because of how I looked at life and the decisions I made and where they took me. My journey to happiness started at the end of my college career. I won’t go into details here maybe in a later blog. Just know this I was tired of feeling miserable inside and I did not like myself very much. After college I had many different jobs and I had a lot to learn. I eventually went back to school to become a therapist during this time I learned many of the techniques that I now use daily. I still look for anything that will speed up the change process in fact recently I began working with Dr. Michael Duckett and we will be doing a training called the Mental Codes Seminar, the Power of Change. The Mental Codes is a technique that I have now incorporated as a technique to help me accelerate the change process and it has been working wonderfully.
The reason this blog can help you have a healthy life is because I will remind you again and again don’t give up, practice, and keep trying new techniques and skills until you find what works for you. I will feature mainly the techniques that work for me or my clients so experiment and go beyond reading this blog to find solutions. Personal growth is a must for a successful life and happy life. Let me repeat this PERSONAL GROWTH IS A MUST FOR A SUCCESSFUL LIFE AND HAPPY LIFE. However you define success whether it is to be a good; parent, spouse, business person, sister, brother, it all comes down to you how you act, think and love.
To be the best you, you must work hard on yourself. I am not saying be hard on your self, this is self defeating and actually deters personal growth. Working hard means continue to find those areas you want to work on and then improve them. Notice I did not say try to improve them, the way to approach changing anything is to actually do it. Put together a plan of action with simple steps and then follow them. Remember that successful people are courageous they tackle the situations and problems that scare them. With in all of us is a courageous person, wanting to get out. Don’t wait for tragedy or life to force you to be courageous, challenge your self step out of your box do the thing you are most afraid to do. I promise it is freeing to finally take on your fears.

Make a deal with yourself today to be courageous everyday, challenge your self to change and become the person you have always wanted to be. Happiness is well within reach don’t wait grab for it now.

Now if you are anything like me you need help either figuring out what you want to work on or how to work on it. That is why I have a mentor and I would encourage anyone reading this blog entry if you don’t have a mentor or coach to find one ASAP. Having a great coach will accelerate your growth and help you achieve your dreams much faster than you can do alone.

If you want more information about the Mental Codes Seminar then please call me and I will tell you all about the training and Dr. Michael Duckett. Tickets are selling fast so call now (404) 259-1335.

Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLC
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.YouCanHaveItAll.Wordpress.com

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | November 14, 2009

I was reminded why I spend time visualing

I have written about this skill before in my blog and will write about it again. It is one of the most important skills we have to create a happy and mentally healthy life. One extra benefit is you can do it any time and anywhere, please not while driving.

It is starting to get cold here in Georgia and still almost every evening starting around 6:00pm M-Th dozens of kids and coaches show up to practice soccer across the street at the park. This evening I remember that soccer was my first introduction to the benefits of visualizing. I did not become motivated to use it daily until much later in life but at the time I used it to improve my scoring abilities. I was playing for the Northern California State Women’s Soccer team at the time. The glory days of soccer for me. Our coach instructed us on how to visualize and encouraged us to do this daily to improve our abilities. Now I won’t tell you I managed to do it daily. I will tell you that when I did it consistently I played better. At the time I did not know that he was teaching me one of the most powerful tools you can use to achieve your dreams.

Did you know that the brain does not know the difference between visualization and experiencing an actual event; crazy I know, but true. As an example take three groups and have each player in the three groups all do the same tests i.e. take ten shots on goal. After you gather the data on each player and group shots made and missed then you give each group a different task. Group one does nothing for two weeks, group two practice taking shots on the goal for two weeks and group three visualizes taking shots on goal. The outcome will amaze you group one will not change at all, group two will improve the most and group three will improve only slightly less than group two. Your brain really did practice the shots. Now please understand for visualizing to work you have to put your all into it. You must really visualize the event and how you want it to work out and I mean down to the smell and feel of the event not just what it will look like. Learning this skill will help you accomplish any goal you set faster and smoother. You are creating new nuero pathways and the more you practice the stronger the pathway.

If you are interested in learning more techniques for improving your life and achieving your dreams attend the Mental Codes Seminar in Alpharetta GA on December 12th 10am-1pm. This technique alone will accelerate whatever goals you have for your life or business. Give me a call at (404) 259-1335. I will give you all the details. Some of you will know the main presenter Dr. Michael Duckett and that just his name will sell the venue out quickly.

Please send any questions you want answered to greta@CoachingYourDreams.com please put in the subject line Question for Coach Greta or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLC
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
404-259-1335

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | November 9, 2009

Learn to Bend Time

It is a beautiful inspiring day here in Tucker, GA there is a light breeze, the sun is shining and the temperature is around 70 degrees. I am sitting on my recently built deck breathing and enjoying the day. My dog Lulu is sitting next to me growling at the neighbors as they work in the yard. I am three hours behind schedule. It is amazing how time goes by so quickly any woman with kids, a job or both knows. I am experimenting this month with scheduling to see if I can bend time (that is have time to do everything I want). My mentor Dr. Duckett says you must have a good schedule to bend time.

Here are the options:

1. Do the big stuff in the morning and then the little stuff in the afternoon
2. Schedule everything but no times attached
3. Schedule everything and have time frames for each event.

After picking which one you like do this:

The first Monday of the month take the whole day to work on your month’s schedule. Then every Monday after spend at least thirty minutes scheduling the week. This kind of scheduling is particularly important to entrepreneurs; it can also be helpful to mothers and anyone women employed who wants to start a business. You just spend a proportional amount of time scheduling i.e. if you only have ten hours a week to work on your business you may not take the whole day to schedule you may take two to three hours at the beginning of the month and then only fifteen minutes every week after that. No matter what you must schedule yourself otherwise you may get things done, but it will be inefficient and you will feel disorganized. As with everything I discuss it takes practice and we are not looking for perfection only permanence.

Right now option three is winning for me because I get a lot more done when I have times actually written down. I know of several people where option one works great as well. Option two seems to leave to much room for disorganization.

If you are tired of feeling disorganized and confused contact me at:

Greta Jaeger, CPLC, LPC
(404) 259-1335
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.YourCanHaveItAll.wordpress.com

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | November 8, 2009

Confronting Your Fears

Finish this sentence for your self.

I have always wanted to ……. but haven’t because ………

Now look at the last part of the sentence that starts with “because” and I mean really look at it, observe it. Take several deep breaths and ask your self is this truly a good reason not to do what I want or is it just a fear? If it is a fear then it is time to tackle that fear head on There is no true way to bury a fear it will always come back and bite you in the butt later. We have to learn to let go of our fears and move forward.

You must do that thing you think you can not do – Eleanor Roosevelt

It is easy as women to think “my priority is my family” and I agree whole heartedly. Here is where I get confused exactly when did your family become minus you? Are you not a part of your own family? If your family is a priority then logically so are you. They don’t make comments like “the family is only happy if mom is happy” for no reason at all. It is true.

To be happy you must pursue your passions and dreams as well as encourage, inspire and support your family in their pursuits. To confront your fear and do what you want is as simple as moving into action. If your want to start your own business take one small step i.e. go to the library and get books on how start a business. Your want to go back to school go on line and check out some schools maybe an hour a week nothing big just small steps. I know of a woman who was so busy she could only take one class a semester. Slowly over about four years she went in to talk with her advisor and he told her she had one more class to go and she would have her masters. It may seem like a long time but she could of not gone at all and would still not have her masters. Small steps are the easiest and as long as you stay focused on our goal you will get there.

If you want more information on how to move through your fear contact me at:

Greta Jaeger, CPLC, LPC
(404) 259-1335
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.YourCanHaveItAll.wordpress.com

Posted by: Greta Jaeger | November 5, 2009

Taking care of yourself (learning to sleep)

Sleep is the golden chain that ties health and our bodies together. ~Thomas Dekker

I was fortunate enough to take a stress management class in my thirties. I know amazing a class on how to manage your stress; we should all get a class like this in high school. My class project was to learn how to sleep, at this point in my life I slept around 2-4 hours a night. I was in graduate school at the time and studying with limited sleep can be a challenge. I often fell asleep on my books. I could not turn my brain off at night and get a restful sleep.

Insomnia is a gross feeder. It will nourish itself on any kind of thinking, including thinking about not thinking. ~Clifton Fadiman

The ability to quite our thinking and sleep is incredibly important and helps us stay mentally healthy. I took my project seriously and put together a plan and committed to it for eight weeks. If you have sleep problems because you can not quite your thoughts this plan will help tremendously. Here it is:

1. Remember your bed is for sleeping or sex nothing else.
2. No watching T.V. in bed
3. No reading in bed
4. Avoid caffeine after 10:00am or 11:00am
5. Do some light anaerobic exercise about thirty minutes to an hour before bed i.e. sit ups, push ups or stretching
6. When you lay down to sleep take three to four slow deep breaths
7. If you don’t fall asleep within ten to fifteen minutes of laying down then get out of bed and do something relaxing ten to fifteen minutes (meditate, stretch or sit quietly) don’t read.
8. After the ten to fifteen minutes get back into bed and take three to four deep breathes.
9. If you don’t fall asleep again in ten to fifteen minutes then repeat number 6 and 7 until you do fall asleep. (most people when first learning this only have to repeat the cycle three to four times and then they fall asleep).

The point of a plan like the one above is to retrain your brain and body to think of the bed as a place to sleep. This plan will help all but the worst insomniacs; you will learn to quite your mind and fall asleep naturally. Unless you have a medical reason keeping you awake (i.e. sleep apnea) if this is a possibility please seek medical attention right away. I have helped many clients learn to sleep again with this plan.

Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.

Greta Jaeger, PLC, LPC
404-259-1335
http://www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
http://www.YouCanHaveItAll.com

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